6yr old refuses to get up for school!?

Question:

For the last 2 weeks my 6 yr old daughter has been fighting us on getting up for school. She claims she is tired and wants to stay in bed. School starts at 7:45 and I get her up at 6 Am. Her sister gets up with out a problem. This morning she refused to get out of bed. We have tried everything to get her out of bed. She has lost watching her TV to her cheerleading and she still continues to do this!! She is in bed at 7 and won't fall alsleep till about 9. sits in bed and plays and talks to herself. I am at a total lose on what to do! She plays outside and it doesn't seem to wear her out! Any ideas on what to do to get her to go to sleep when she goes to bed?

Answers:
Hi

Obvioulsy as her parents you have or are in the process of finding out if there is anything at school that is causing a problem making her want to NOT go.

remember it could be something very small or simple to your adult mind but huge to hers... could be something as simple as a certain group of kids not playing with her at recess.
Ask her teachers at open house.

You should also consider a medical cause.. Make sure she is ok ,,, maybe a check up and don't forget an eye check.

Have you tried to sit down as her friend and talk to her.. tell her she wont be in trouble for anything she says but you are concerened because she seems to be having trouble

Maybe ask HER for ideas on what SHE thinks would help get her up.. let her have some control in it.

Also maybe having more physical activity when she got home to tire her out a bit more would help .. but not after maybe 5 or so if you want her n bed by 7pm..

You could try giving her her own new alarm clock go shopping and let her pick it out nd she only gets to use it or have it IF she gets up....

FINALLY if all things are done,, she is medically ok, you have tried everything else......

WELL........
This works for smaller children soo
You can talk to her and tell her what the consequences are if she does not get up ahead of time and expect she will try them out at least once....

Tell her tomarrow morning if you do not get up in time to get dressed and eat before school You will go to school in your Pajamas. Make sure you tell the teacher of this as well so she is not shocked.

Then if she does not get up... once it is time to leave... grab her book bag and load her n the car and take her to school...
You can bring clothes along or not .. you choose...

Its tough love... but if she is doing it out of stubborness or manipulation... this should work...

SHe gets a clear message she will go to school PERIOD dressed or in PJ's
It wont take long for her to figure out Mom means business and she does not want to got o school in her jammies.

This is after you are sure there is not a reasonable cause for the behavior,.. and you maybe try some rewards... like pennies in a jar or something everytime she is dressed and ready on time she gets a reward.. maybe 5 pennies is worht going for ice cream or something and she gets a penney for each day she is up and on time...... IF all is done and nothing works......then you need to get tough

If you end up using this approach , just make sure everyone is on board and it is done matter of fact like not as a punishment but more as a natural result of her not getting up and getting ready.

Sorry dear, you did not get up in time and now we have to go .. We have not more time and you cant be late for school...You will have to get dressed at school. And you go..... calmly.. you are in control... let her see that.. cause if it turns out she is deliberately doing this then she has found a way to gain control over you guys.. and she may like it... you have to take the desire away to stop the behavior... If she refuses to get in the car.. TAKE HER, belt her in to her seat and go... she may toss a fit like no other at having to surrender her power... each child is different.
Again Calmly giving her a choice.. you could say,.. WE ARE leaving to go to school now.. You can walk yourself to the car and get in or I can carry you.. which do you want... if she refuses to co operate t hen you just carry her kicking and screaming if need be. But she may decide right then and there you mean business and beg to let her get dressed... if she does at that point I would still stand firm and say no time you will have to get dressed at school and you go... if you get to that point and cave she will see that .... then all you have done is moved your strtuggle to the point of when you are getting out the door.
I know its tough... but IF all else is ruled out then this may just work.. never seen a kid it did not work with! Hang tough MOM

Oh yeah and DONT forget that once she does get up on her own and get dressed to reward her... Verbal praise something to let her know you are proud.

If you yell and scream about it then it will seem like a punishment. Avoid this.

I wish you well and hope any of this helped!

Wismom

Your six year old cannot refuse to go to school.
If you have too, drag her out of bed and get her dressed yourself.

Is she taking naps when she gets home from school??
My sister used to do this and she couldn't go to sleep at night.

Good luck with your situation.

tell her that at 7:00 your going to go in her room and beat her up if shes not asleep.

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