9 yr old girl annoying my 6 yr old daughter....?

Question:

My daughter waits for the bus and rides the bus with this 9 yr old girl, among other children. Her mom also stands and waits for her for the bus and meets her out when the bus returns. The problem is, this little girl HAS to have my daughters attention ALL the time. As soon as she sees my daughter she runs up and repeats her name over and over and over untill my daughter eventually has to stop what she is doing (ususally talking to another kid or playing) and either talk to her or walk away. My daughter has gotten to the point where it seems like she is trying to ignore her. My daughter used to be excited to see her, but now she just tries to avoid her, with no prevail. It's not like my daughter doesn't give her attention, its that this girl has to have ALL her attention ALL THE TIME, and if she don't get it she gets mad and yells and my daughter. The problem is, her mom is out there when this happens and won't say anything when her daughter does this. Should I talk to the mom?

Answers:
I had this same problem with my daughter last year when she was five and just starting to school..

The way that worked for me was teaching my daughter to "use her words" when the little girl was trying to get her attention... I taught her some "words" such as "please wait a minute.." "I'm just talking to so-and-so at the moment" and other self empowering phrases.

I didn't talk to the mum because no mother likes to hear worries about their child and can make things difficult in the long run.

I also spent time in the playground before school and monitored the situation myself .. ie if I saw the girl trying to get my daughter's attention, I stepped in and re directed her or let know very nicely that my daughter was playing with someone else at the moment... I also had a chat with her about making other friends besides my daughter as that is what my daughter liked and I hoped that she could do the same...

I know that other people here have said to speak to the mother but I really don't recommend it unless you already have some of communication happening already. You don't want to make your trip to the bus stop more awkward than it is already.

Hopefully the mother will see you intervening and do something about it...

Good luck!!

I would talk with the mother. Or start waiting for the bus with your child, and police the situation a little.

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