Is my way of discipline good?


I have a daughter who's 6 and we have a special way of disciplining. The first time in a day she misbehaves she gets a warning. The second time she misbehaves she has to stay in the corner(timeout). The third time she misbehaves-I should mention she usually doesn't get to 3-she is spanked with the whip of her choice (choices are belt, hand, clothes hanger etc.) Today and yesterday she has gotten to number three and she keeps saying i am a bad mommy for being mean to her and i don't know how to be a mommy so i'm wondering is my way of discipline good or is it just making her hate me?

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I think your way of discipline is pretty good. People just gotta loosen up, it isn't abuse unless it leaves marks or the child is risking injury. A few whacks with the belt or a clothes hanger is no big deal. Some kids need a nice hard spanking once in a while. I have a very good example of what i mean. One of my best friends was skipping school in sixth and seventh grade and going to the mall and stuff during skool time. When his dad found out he took the belt and beat him so hard that he could barely not sit down after. Was his father trying to abuse him? NO! He was just showing him that what he did was wrong and though i thought that beating was a bit too severe, i think his dad did a good thing to get him back on track. We are now in eleventh grade and he is a straight B+ student and on the honor roll. Does he hate his dad? No, in fact, he said that was the best thing his dad ever did for him and it's because of that beating that he is doing so good in life today. So the point of my story is that a spanking is very good once in a while IF NEEDED. Now, back to your problem. I think your way of discipline is good and the only reason your daughter is saying she hates you is because she is trying to make you feel bad for disciplining her. She'll get over it in a day or two but if she has been misbehaving so much more lately then there might be something wrong so i would suggest talking to her. Good luck! Oh, and i'm sure you are probably not a bad mommy.
YOU hit your child with a hanger? can we say ABUSE! A smack on the butt is one thing but using objects to punish your child? Are you insane????

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