Im pregnant and ive messed up big time x?
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I would take things one step at a time. A good way to sort things out would be to find a community counseling and help center. You call your mother "mum" so I can guess that you live in Great Britain? Great Britain has extensive community support so you should be able to find a counseling center. I sounds like you have a lot on your plate. Having a professional to sit down with and help you sort things out would be the best step you can take now for yourself and for your baby. I was pregnant out of wedlock 31 years ago. I found a counseling center and was able to sort things out one step at a time. If you aren't able to find a counseling center, maybe you can look under the Yahoo communities for counseling services. You owe yourself and the baby the best now and from now on. After you take care of yourself and your baby one step at a time, you can start to include others in your plan. Good luck, dear...you will be in our prayers.
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Keep it. It's worst if you have an abortion 'cause you'll have to live with the guilt forever. Tell them both. Get it over with.
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keep the baby.
I think one, you should keep baby, two end things completely with your ex, and try things with this new guy. Nothing is ever carved in stone, but it sounds like you're just holding on to your ex, and thats not fair to either of you, move on, and let him move on.
Do what is right for you,wait till you have scan cause they can date when you fell so you will know who the father is.
End of the day its your choice but you are only young plenty of time to have children & do you really love this other guy?
if the two of you have already technically split then there shouldnt be anything wrong, its not like you cheated. unless the two of you have always been on and off, and things could have worked out, i dont if hes seeing anyone. as for the sleeping in the same bed, thats somewhat understandable, since you have a house together, but if this was a serious split it seems like one of you would have moved out, or at least slept on the couch or something. theres no way you can hide being pregnant, hes eventually going to find out, and it would be better if you told him yourself. you dont want to lose him as a friend, which it sounds like you still care about him since your worrying so much about it. just because your stuck with a tough decision, is no reason to get rid of the baby. it wasnt the babys fault, no baby is a mistake. but i would take some time to figure out what you want. wheter or not you truly love this guy from work or if it was really just a mistake because you were vulnerable. i would talk to your ex, if he loves you he should be supportive. and if its too hard to "pick"between the two of them, just because your having a baby doenst mean that you have to pick either. it doesnt mean that you have to get married, ideally thats how it would work, but thats not a reason and you shouldnt be pressured to make any decision. it sounds like your moms on your side, so at least you have your family to fall back on if things dont go so well otherwise. this is a tough one, all i can say is to come clean, but make up your mind what y ou truly want before you tell him, but tell him soon. if he found out from someone else, he would probably never forgive you. good luck i hope everything turns out good.
First of all, are you sure that the father of the baby is the guy from work? If you've slept with both of them in a relatively short space of time, either could be the father. That's something you really need to be sure of before you decide what to do about this guy from work - it's not fair to expect him to help you bring up someone else's baby. Similarly, if the baby's father is your ex-boyfriend, that might be enough to fix your relationship.
If you're sure that the baby is the guy from work's, you should move out of the house you're sharing with your ex. Move back in with your mum if you can, she's said she'll stand by you. Have the baby, look after it as best you can, and get support from other people, your mum, the baby's father etc.
Listen my love,we all make mistakes and we have to suffer the consequences. I know what your going through i went through it to. The decisions and the guilt weigh heavily.My mother insisted i have an abortion but i didn't and I am glad i didn't, I was about your age, I am now 56 and have 3 daughters and 6 grandchildren.I would have missed all of this if I had done it. Believe me you don't want an abortion and although i am not a religious nut but in the eyes of our Creator it is MURDER.I presume you know who the father is. I don't think you should worry about your ex's feelings or anyones Else's. It's your baby, you will have to bring up, he will find someone else and he won't worry about your feelings, get on with your life, he will. You have been playing a very dangerous game with 2 men and it has to stop now.It is morally wrong, one man = one woman.You are having a baby, if the father is willing to accept his responsibilities that's great, if not then you will manage because you have to, that's life. It doesn't matter who the father is, or who's mistake it is, the fact is you are pregnant, it's that baby that matters now, not you or your 2 men. Only you can decide no one can do it for you, a baby is for life.DECIDE NOW before it's to late.
My daughter was 16 when she fell pregnant, I gave her the same advice, she took it that baby is now 16 and I love her to bits and I know that once your mum sees your baby she will feel the same.
If you need someone to talk to you can always talk to me e mail me : alternative@medicine.wanadoo.c... My name is Gloria
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