Adoptees...what information would you want to see at your first facade to facade reunion next to your mother?
Answers: I think the most far-reaching thing for me was to see my n-mom obverse to face.but after that PICTURES! Plus, pictures are a great way to go and get the conversation started about stuff. If I hadn't had pictures near me meeting my n-mom we would have sit there awkwardly for a long time...
I think hospital accounts and anything to 'written' might be overwhelming, but it would definitely be something that I'd love to take home beside me to read over. When I met my n-dad he gave me a scrapbook of articles his dad had save about the family history, and a book of house pictures that my n-aunt had made. He let me filch it home so that I could read it and look it over when I had the chance. This be VERY meaningful for me.
I've done this one already and I can tell you that you can whip along anything you want but your going to be caught up in the moment for reasonably a while. Looking each other over like a duet of monkeys almost. my daughter and I compared hands, noses, mouths, eyes, tresses, hips, legs, that includes length and width. voice patterns, finger nail. feet. everything you can show some one in a public place. I'm not sure we could own looked at pictures on the first visit. But it would be good to enjoy it along in case you can travel through that stuff. wen i met my birth mum4 the first time after 10yrs, i stoped the contct when i was 5/6,cos i hated her over somthing. i asked her if i could see mature family photos, anything elsewould be too much ithought! she showed them 2 me aswell!
now we hold a strong relationship!
Gosh, just seeing her face be miracle enough. There's where my green eyes come from!
The non-adopted can NEVER realize what it's like to meet a your mother, in need knowing her your whole life.
Overwhelming indeed.
My n-mom did not own many photos and had not kept momentos of the hospital at adjectives but she brought one photo of when she was a child and I could tell I be her next-generation twin -- it was eerie. And nice because I have grown up with a dark haired part-Greek mother and I be light blonde Scandinavian so it was awkward other not looking like anyone and especially not being a babyish version of my mother.
It was ample to see her. She brought her husband along and was a godsend asking ``Where is the best place to get a burger contained by this town?`` We went out to a fun local place that was not loud but be busy enough it could stand the lull in the conversation.
Family pics, salary check stubs (to ensure your child will be adopted by someone who can financially take attention of your child), pics of the house the baby will be living in, adjectives plan for your baby, other sibling information, their health information ( you want to net sure they are healthy and will be around to take comfort of the baby.)
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